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Riding your Bike - Chaining Unchaining - m4w (Downtown) 23yr

Hey, saw you in the greenlife parking lot on your bike yesterday, and we caught a glimpse of each other. Saw you again today across the street from DTB&N, where I was going to trade some books. You've been around Asheville for awhile, and so have I. We should hang out sometime, I just got a new bikelock.

Subway Sandwich Artist - w4w (Tunnel Road) 22yr

First, I apologize that my friends and I took so damn long to figure out what we wanted. I'm not really sure if those cookies were supposed to be free or not, but thank you all the same. And just to let you know you have the loveliest smile of anyone that has ever made a sandwich for me. Maybe I could make/buy one for you, or something more substantial.

Friday evening at Highland Brewery - w4m

S, we talked a few times during the evening, and I thought you were pretty cute in your white dress shirt and black pants. (I'm hoping it was an optical illusion that I thought I saw you smoking a cigarette.) I was nicely surprised that you remembered my name when I stopped to say good bye as I was leaving. I was hoping you'd offer to walk me out and I would have asked you to, but I wasn't sure if you were attached to one of the women in your group of friends or not. If you're not, can I buy you a beer sometime?

Aquiline - m4w (UNCA) 21yr

I've been studying you all semester long, but now that we're actually study partners I can't concentrate on school at all. I just look at you across the table from me and get all caught up in the complicated architecture of your face. Your nose is so perfectly shaped--I would probably kill an actual human being for the chance to kiss the bridge of it. I've got it bad. But if you want to spare the world all that senseless violence, and you're into me--I think you might be?--we should hang out sometime. You know where to find me.

Music Lover - w4m (Pack Memorial) 32yr

I ran into you at the library today, browsing in the biographies section. You were so cute, with your little backpack and your brushy mustache. I glanced up from my Ella at the same time you looked up from your Debussy, and our eyes met for a brief moment. I wish it could have lasted longer.

Butte Dance, Montana (West Asheville) 24yr

To the girl in the elaborate chartreuse/fuchsia get-up: I apologize. The dance floor was so crowded tonight, I didn't have any room to buck and wing, as is my custom. So I began grinding awkwardly toward your surprisingly tall buttocks, without much luck (which is strange, because I have an exceptionally tall pelvis for a man my height) but without much resistance. When I hooked my thumb into your panties, though, you pushed me away and shot me a Gorgon's stare.

I was upset and a little embarrassed, but once you and your sour-faced friends walked away, I had a lot more room to do my mandance. Then one of your dude friends walked up and offered to "fuck me up" at some undisclosed point in the future. Since I'd rather not get jumped at a stoplight, or bear-maced from behind a large shrubbery, I figured I should clear the air.

If anyone reading this knows the girl who was wearing the striped purple and green costume tonight, please pass this message on to her: I'm really sorry. I'd love to make it up to you in some way--maybe dinner and drinks?

Girl at Ingles Gas-Station on Long Shoals - m4w (Long Shoals) 25yr

I know this is long shot.. But Who knows it may work sometimes..OK I just saw you at Ingles Gas-Station on Friday night around 10:30.. You were trying to feel up gas and I was already there getting Gas in my Car.. You looked at me from the car before you came out.. And then When I was done with my Gas I was getting into my car and looked at you that time also caught your eyes looking at me.. I would have talk to you and ask you for a couple drinks but I was getting late for work So had to run..If you see this and think thats you.. then just reply me what time or atleast what gas pump you and me were at???By the way you look pretty.. I think you might just came from Movie???
Hope this work!!!
Lets see///
Thank you so much!!!!

blonde in a Honda Civic - m4w (Asheville (Merrimon Ave.)) 32yr

This is to the cute Short Haired Blonde who was driving a chamgane Honda Civic (88-91 model) on Merrimon Ave infront of Bank of America on Thursday November 19th, 2009 around 1:00 pm.

I am the guys who was wearing a navy blue sweat shirt with sun glasses, i never met u before and when i saw u amd my eyes caught u, i cant get u out of my mind. i know its kinda wiered but i dunno whats goin on with me. i would love to meet u and i hope this post will work and find u.... i dont want anything from ya i just wanna meet you and invite u to dinner or lunch and talk to u and we can take it from there.

Please if anyone knows that girl have her contact me here. I will be travelling by the end of this month and will be gone for 40 days so i would love to meet u before i go.

and if you exist and decided to respond to this post please type "Dinner with a blonde" in the subject box

i am attaching a pic of a honda civic that looks like her car but her car color is Chamgane/Gold..

Manny

the day that almost ended (asheville)

as i sat in the pew
tears down my face
i searched for answers
i searched for grace

silence befell me
nobody cared
i found nothing
i just sat and stared

middle of the sermon
as they started to pray
i turned my back on faith
and i walked away

i got into my car
my home was not that far
i knew the end was near
i didn't feel any fear....

---

2 years ago i almost ended my life. this is the way i felt that day... and then something miraculous happened.

if you're feeling this way today... if something about these words speaks to you... please write me... i'd love to share the rest of the story with you.

there is another way.

Dark skinned guy eating lunch at Jersey Mikes Patton Ave today - m4m (Asheville) 38yr

You were a dark skinned guy, possibly Indian or Hispanic ethnicity having lunch today with your friend around 1:00 at the Jersey Mikes on Patton Avenue behind Aldi. I was the guy eating alone by the window. You and I made eye contact more than once. If you're reading this and are interested, drop me a line and a photo so I'll know its you (too many fake spammers on this site). You're cute and I'll bet you're even cuter naked ;-)

Cute Guy at Foam and Fabric - m4m (Biltmore Ave,Asheville) 43yr

To the cute guy today Friday around 1:30.You wearing yellow tee shirt.Me checking out with gotee.We really checked each other out and with big smiles.If you see this please email me.Would like to take you out for a drink or Dinner.

My next missed connection - m4w (W AVL) 47yr

I've lurked here for a long time - since before I moved here. I've always been too shy to approach women I don't know. I don't know why, I've always been that way. It's part of what makes me the great person I am!

I don't know what made the shift, but I know the next time I have the opportunity I will introduce myself. It won't be like last week when I was mesmerized by a raven haired woman at the beer cooler in Ingles Patton west. I was stunned to the point I couldn't step forward and say hello. I ended up leaving with my 'medicinal liquid' and a feeling of something potentially lost. I wish I could share the epiphany that I've had and make this section of CL unused. I just have this overwhelming feeling that it's a waste to not take advantage of an opportunity offered.

I'll still lurk here, I love the occasional sadly romantic posts that likely start a country song and the off the wall funny posts that keep me in a good mood through the work week.

So, if a socially inept, goofy-looking guy says hi - it might be my next un-missed connection. Or it could be yours. Either way - you don't have to wait for me to introduce us.

You are beautiful (Asheville Biltmore Grande) 35yr

You work at the movie theater in concessions. You are truly beautiful. I would love to get to know you. I believe your name is Carrie. My friend and I got a large popcorn and two diet cokes on the Twilight/New Moon debut night. I hope to get a response from you.

the veggie girls at pritchard park - m4w

you in hot short dress at p/p supper sexy with veggie and torky sign let talk you give me long hard look tell me if you know what i was driving jon lee was about to film you

One Leg Up - w4m (East Asheville)

One connection available. Claim at Highland Brewery's new tasting room this evening.
Immediate in-person greetings are preferred over anonymous regretful Craigslist posts the next day.

Be bold!

RE: I know you read this - m4w - w4m

Are the letters at the bottom a clue or initials? More information please? Or email me directly.
Thank you

Where's my wreckerman? - w4m (WNC)

looking for my long lost wreckerman...we started chatting after I saw your post on here, but now I can't seem to get in touch with you. You recently re-located your business. I do know where you moved to, but feel that it would be awkward just walking in and surprising you. Sorry our schedules didn't work out for us to meet at the lake or your RV at the lake. If you are still interested in chatting and taking things one day at a time, I would very much enjoy chatting and seeing you. TO weed out the scammers put your name in the subject line so I know it is truly you. All others will be immediately deleted. So please my wreckerman get in touch with me we have a lot to catch up on and I think you will like all the things that have changed with me since our last chat.

RE: About the "approaching" - 30 (WNC)

I was going to respond to the post disparaging all women when I saw this one. Since I couldn't have said it better myself, I won't try, so all I'll say is, "Amen!" I will add, though, that it goes both ways. Both sexes are much too quick to lump everyone in the same category based on one or two bad (never good) experiences. What a shame. No wonder so many people are alone in the world.

Re: I dreamt about you again last night - w4m (I miss Dreamland)

I wish you hadn't included initials in your post so I could at least pretend it was for me, even though I know it's not.

About the "approaching" (WNC) 30yr

I sure don't know where you are all looking for women, but don't lump us all into one catagory. There are many of us single women who would love to be approached by a good man if they would not be distracted by the hoochies!

Let me give you a little help here friend, if you are only going after the women who dress like a street walker, your gonna wind up with all the mess and drama that usually follows them around, or they create just to keep up the image of "I need attention" the two go hand in hand!

I am single, I dress in a way that doesn't show off my "candy" because that is not what I want you to be intrigued by with me, I will be much more attracted to a man who desires a woman with intelligence, kindness, respect, and morality. That is what you will get with me, not a trashy tramp who goes bar hopping all night and with whom you have to be worried is going to be sleeping around you as soon as you leave for work in the morning.

So try looking past the girl with the short skirt in a bar, try instead the quiet woman sitting at the coffee shop reading a book or the local paper, give a smile to the woman in line at the store who has on the nice pair of jeans and pretty sweater. The right woman if interested will give you a nice response when you ask her what coffee she is drinking or just say "hello, how are you".

We are out there, just be friendly and see what happens!

I dreamt about you again last night - m4w (Bed Head)

I never felt so much passion for a woman in my life, and I still feel it for you, MG.

Last night we made love in my dreams, and this morning I miss you more than ever.

I see your beautiful face in my mind, every day. I still love you, and I always will.

re: approaching women - w4m (Asheville) 36yr

whatever......i have tried to approach girls/women with every different form there is. women here are STUCK-UP!!!!!!!!!!
what gets me even more, is seeing a sexy girl wearing next to nothing....can even see her thong through her skirt, then when you talk to her, she has boyfriend of course......what the hell - all the girls wearing the most attention-getting clothes are already taken. more than anything i see a bunch of attention-whores. no women here is serious about meeting a real man, they all want tlittle boy-toy rich kids to manipulate and to feed their already huge self-image...i wil meet a seemingly nice girl, they flirt, give me numbers, then never answer calls, or return them, only to see them the next week with some short-ass, skinny, weak, pretty-boy that has probably never really worked a day in his life. wtf?????????????????????? no wonder so many women are miserable and unhappy, now ya'll know why!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! don't even know what real men are.

checking ur mailbox - m4m (caroleen) 26yr

Saw u thur walking across the road to check your mail. I blew my horn and waved. U had shorts on and no shirt. Very sexy!!

re:re:re: the approach - w4m - 39 (Asheville) - m4w

My dear, do you suffer from reading comprehension problems or dyslexia? I never approached her. Sheesh. I know your heart is in the right place but please read the ad and understand what it says first before commenting. It'll save us both some grief.

To the cute mousy-lookin' twee girl at Izzys - m4w (Asheville) 25yr

Basically, if you are a girl and have been at Izzy's, ever, I probably have a mild crush on you. Let's just make up some shit:

I saw you reading a book of feminist essays. We made eye contact. You were offended because you thought I was staring at your chest, but I was just trying to figure out what your Threadless shirt design said. Second chance? Do you like The Kinks? I have a blog.

RE The punisher

Be sure you keep all the evidence sweetie! I caught my hubby and his online girlfriends (most of them underage) and I went to his workplace (Arby's in Bryson City where he was a manager) and busted him red handed with what I found. Left him a bag of his nasty tore up clothes and took the house keys.

2 years later I have a good job, pay my own bills, have great friends, and a pretty good life. Meanwhile he got kicked out of one friends house after another, even his parents tossed him out! He wound up back in Florida where we could not even keep a job flipping burgers, wrecked his car, is being chased by the child support enforcment athorities for not paying his child support to his son who is down there, and got ditched by his roommates and got evicted from his ghetto apartment. Last I heard he was living in his brokedown car in whatever parking lot he could push it into.

Karma can be a you-know-what! You go girl!!!!!

Mr. Brown Package...you know who you are (Black Mountain) 40yr

So, you are looking here aren't you. It's romatic what you will read here. I would love to find a post for me. How great is that, being the object of a mans affection and him caring enough to seek you out...I think that is what I have lacked in all my relationships. I have never been "chosen" by any of the men I have been with. I am old fashioned that way. Very sad and unsatisfying. As for us, I would love to have a deep, unrestricted friendship with you. No holding back, total honesty about who we are, all our wants, needs and desires. One person we can turn to and be ourselves, no lies. The sex between us was always amazing. I understand you aren't up to that anymore and I can be very satisfied being on an intimate level with you through a friendship. Who would have ever thought we were once such sexual beings together...it was amazing. Let me know what you want.

RE: Blue Uni 23yr

Blush I did and it really made my day. You made a little weird dream of mine come true. Thanks for playing Guess Who with me.

RE: kellie rebekah meadows

Mail delivered to the wrong address should be returned to the Post Office to handle.

kellie rebekah meadows (asheville)

i get your mail at my house. looks pretty important. and you have a certified letter at the oteen post office....but you need this slip to pick it up. also, something from a tax collector in hendersonville. contact me so i can get this to you. governors view road.
thanks

chocolate obsessed insomniac - m4w (asheville ) 34yr

i thought i could do it. post a missed connection and you'd know it was me. here i am, pissed off and hovering. there you are, sleeping in your bed till 2 in the afternoon. don't you think i know? don't you think it is obvious? you stayed up all night on the computer, eating chocolate and surfing the web. cruising the missed connections and looking for her. look for me! you self serving lout! i should've known the first time we met and you had chocolate on your teeth and an eerie glow in your squared glasses. feed into your ether net, darling, i'll be out playing cards with the boys. and by that i mean making out. with others. hah!

lonely bitter lover

Re: Blue Uni - m4w

When I sent out that distress call, I never expected you to show up the next day with your ice shovel in hand. Now I'm not so sure how to move forward. I really just wanted to make you blush and chuckle. Now I've become some sort of cryptic quizmaster jagoff.

Sheesh.

To THE PUNISHER

Keep a constant vigil - GET HIM.

Re: The Punisher (Asheville) 36yr

You Go Girl! Husbands in Asheville are in a desperate race to cover their tracks now, thanks to your post. lol. Love it!

re:re: the approach - w4m (Asheville) 39yr

In your post you already describe your problem...you caught her off guard by waiting for her number 1 then you use the word slutty in a way that seems to generalise women...bad move if that attitude came across in your approach then I can see why she blew you off

re:approaching someone you don't know - w4m (Asheville) 39yr

Yesterday I approached a very pretty woman and told her I thought she was very pretty...this happened at the library...I was ner vous and nearly left the library even despite the fact that I wanted to say something to her....my reward was a big warm smile a kind hearted handshake and her name...if see this beautiful young woman again I hope to ask her for coffee....taking chances sometimes pays off

Hendersonville Mall - m4w (Asian Restaurant)

You were eating with your children as I was going into K-mart. When our eyes met you smiled so big and pretty. Thanks for making my day a little brighter. I would like to see that smile again.

e.g., i wish u happiness - m4w (here & there) 40yr

i've been a real jerk. that's not who i am nor what i'm about. i'll give you time but we will make future memories...

DON'T HATE JUST APPRECIATE!

peace

4:55pm Flight to ATL on Sun 11/15 - m4m (Asheville Airport) 38yr

Looking for the young hot long haired guy in the beanie that was on my Delta Flight to ATL on Sunday 11/15/09. I spotted you getting out of the car, you were in line behind me at the ticket counter, I nearly fainted when you pulled the sweater off in security and I got a glimpse of the abs. You and your "group" sat across from me while we were waiting on the flight to board. Smoking hot and I'd love to play with you. I know you noticed, but you seemed to like the staring so I kept it up. Not concerned if you are bi, straight or gay, matters not. Hit me up, tell me how many were in your group so I know it's you babe.

The Punisher - w4m (Asheville) 35yr

To my husband who has been using Craig's list as his personal playground, PAYBACK IS A BITCH.
Love, your very attractive and very pissed off wife.

RE: work!!!! - w4m

jeez already, give the poor girl a break and give her some solid i'mformation!!!

Work...again! - w4m

I will hope for you one last time, and even make that dreaded "first move." Could I just pretty, pretty please get the teeniest of hints? Your age perhaps, the industry we work in, or your initials would give me that small security I am looking for. Then I can show you that I'm not shy at all with people I am comfortable with...and I do dream of being so very comfortable with you!

Re: Thinking About You - m4w - w4m

who ?

Mabry - m4w (In the Carolinas) 20yr

Mabry, we went to middle school and some of high school together. you moved away and I've been looking everywhere! haha

I want to say I'm sorry for being a little kid the whole time I knew you. I've grown up some, and would love to talk with you again.

please, if you read this and you either know, or are Mabry let her know Cooper misses her.

What happened? (East of Asheville)

We are so perfect together. You told me you were attracted to me. I told you I felt the same about you. What happened? All of a sudden we don't talk. I got asked so many times if we were married and I responded yes but not to each other. If you want me in your life, let me know. I fell in love with you and can't get you off my mind.

such a spaz (Asheville) 20yr

we sat around your house watching tv shows. i was so into you and you probably had no clue. i had just got over the flu and didnt want to get you sick. i wanted to kiss you so bad, you have no idea. i had my chance, but i blew it. now you dont talk to me because you probably feel rejected. i guess its a loss for the both of us.

Urban Burrito - m4m (Asheville)

Man you are too HOT! I ask you if it had been busy.. If you are interested, Can keep it low key and or No one has to know.....

Weekend Kitchen Makeovers - w4m (Tunnel Rd. Goodwill)

You were in front of me in line, buying a book by that title and I asked you if you were planning to makeover your kitchen in a weekend. You said your house is 60 years old so it might take longer than that.

I like your ponytail. Wanna check out the Goodwill on Patton Ave sometime?

I know you read this - m4w

So the first winter apart it has been one year ago we moved here, almost eight months from when we broke up and you moved out. Every day something reminds me of you. I try to remember everything we argued about, and all the crap I put up with just to ease the pain of not having you here. You drove me over the edge I wanted to jump off the nearest cliff when you were here. Now that you are not I miss your bad habits and bitching. I have been laying in bed at night thinking where we both went wrong. I still living alone you with your new roommate that I hear only is wanting to share an apt and the little side benefits. I am unsure what to think you throw things when you get angry and scream saying things your do not mean later. I still I could wake and this would all would be a messed up dream. I love being in Asheville but I miss having the only person that got me and I was able to understand.

ZGYB

Arden Wal-Mart - m4m (Arden)

..............hello there. we first noticed each other today in the produce section and then later talked in front of the frozen foods. certainly would enjoy talking to you some more. drop me a line. thanks!

Joe smells (everywhere)

like rotting squirrel.

dont flag this one, they deserve the warning.

jk:D you'll never find it, ne ner ne ner neee ner

Brandee (?) at Dr. Kennerly's Office - m4w (asheville) 24yr

I came in for a botched filling.

I think your name is Brandee.

You stood at the counter after I was through.

I wanted to ask you out.

I don't know how to do such things in public.

Your smile is amazing...

Re: alledged CL Junkie - m4m 108yr

It worked!

Now if only you were 6'4" and covered in fur . . .
More oatmeal raisin today I think.

9:30am Monday - w4m (Ingles Tunnel Rd.)

We passed by each other a couple of times in Ingles on Monday morning. First in the pharmacy(ish) section; I walked up and down all the aisles several times and never found the earplugs I was looking for. Then we were in the checkout line with the man buying 2 Bud Light tall boys between us. I thought you were really cute, and I wish I had said something to you, but I had just woken up. I hope you see this.

Me: jeans, green hoodie
What were you wearing?

Sandwich...How many legs can be pulled - m4w (What Was That Place) 41yr

Don't go there I wont be there. I just had a sandwich.

missed connections illustrated in MtnX - m4w (Asheville) 22yr

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looking for Rebecca in spruce pine - m4w (candler)

i missed u on yahoo says ur 29 and yes i do beleve the question u ask

McDonalds in Arden..... - m4w (by I-26) 37yr

you were eating with your daughter in the playroom......id love to meet you....what color shirt was i wearing?

Sandwich

ok, so let's meet for a sandwich
tonight 8, same place

stud in skyland ingles - m4m (asheville) 43yr

woof to the stud in the skyland ingles, wearing jeans ever so nicely, looks like u got out of a blue honda element, u can elev8 me anytime, if there's any chance u see this and are interested, get back with me.

I Badly Want A Sandwich - m4w (Same Place) 41yr

Does That Count.?

Piano Bar- New Girl - w4m

Which new girl? The blonde in the dress or the brunette in the jeans?

Sandwich - w4m (JOW) 26yr

How badly do you want to get to know me?

Wet Nurse - m4w (Oakley) 41yr

I hope you'll come over soon and change the bandages on my legs again. They've been weeping bad the last few days, and missing your kind touch. After the accident, I didn't have much sensation down there, but since you started visiting me, I've felt some little twitches of excitement. I hope it's not rude to say so. I think you might feel the same way about me, even if I do look pretty chewed up right now. If you do, write back. But if not, I hope this won't scare you away.

Thinking About You - m4w

When the sun rises, I think of you
When the sun sets, I think of you
When gazing the stars, I think of you,
When howling at the moon, I think of you

When smelling the scent of spring, I think of you
When feeling the winter snow, I think of you
When listening to the rain, I think of you
When watching leaves change, I think of you

When crying to Mozart, I think of you
When pondering Da vinci, I think of you
When reading Robert Frost, I think of you
When talking to God, I think of you

When climbing Mt. Everest, I think of you
When swimming the Nile, I think of you
When chasing the end of a rainbow, I think of you
And when I'm with you, I think of you.

It isn't my best, but the other night when we were together this started running through my mind. Looking into your eyes and feeling my heart pound as you walk towards me is a sensation I wish I could justly convey. There's nothing I can say, nothing I can do, that could even remotely begin to reproduce the elation that I experience just in talking with you.

Consider me bewitched.

Sweet Georgia Peach - m4w (Big Lots parking lot) 38yr

I helped you get that sofa back on top your Expedition today. You looked like a little lady in that big ol truck, but once you stepped down I could see you were big in all the right places. Dang! We should go out sometime, if you don't got a man already. I sure would like to get that donky of yours on a dance floor.

Lost Boy - w4m (Bobo) 29yr

What gives? One minute we're tearing off each others' clothing like the world's about to end, and the next we're exchanging icy glances from opposite ends of the bar. I want your smooth hands here, your trips downstairs to fetch me water late at night, the way our jigsaw pieces fit, from tip to toe and snug on every side. Your smoky morning voice is golden music, but the notes go sour sometime around lunch, and we're left again with the same reasons we broke up in the first place.

But that doesn't mean we should push each other away. Not now, not at the mouth of winter.
I miss your cuddles baby boy, I feel unwrapped here without you.

Call me back.

Loady Steve - w4m 33yr

We met you at that gay wedding a couple weeks ago. I was the one who kept requesting Green Day and Beastie Boys while the dj blasted Lady Gaga into the early morning. Remember? You jokingly tried to order me a brass monkey, but the bartender was fresh out of Olde English. Anyway, I had fun dancing with you--maybe next time we should try some karaoke.

Girl next door. - m4w (downstairs) 26yr

Some nights I hear your gorgeous chuckles through the makeshift partition that separates our tiny rooms. Huddled in my ex-girlfriend's mummy bag, picking through a stack of Harper's from the co-op freebox, I picture you--your easy radiance and your Roman nose--and chuckle to myself, and wonder what it is that tickles you.

Re:Re:Work - m4w 33yr

Don't feel too bad, I've been reading them all as well and tend to agree with you. Count me in as another who wants these two to make it happen!

Re-approaching someone you don't know - w4m (Downtown) 28yr

Here's why I think this back-and-forth conversation is just skirting around the real issue.
Yes. Both men and women are afraid of being rejected. Both seem to want to make contact, but yet neither wants to take responsibility for making that contact occur. This could be partially due to the fact that both sexes have been hurt/rejected before, and since human beings tend to learn from experience (and adjust future behavior to accommodate for said experience), all future contacts tend to be colored by our painful past experiences. Ok. Basic psychology lesson over. Ahem.
Some wise soul once said something along the lines of " repeating the same actions over and over again and expecting different results could be defined as insanity."
Yet another said something like "Nothing ventured, nothing gained."
I didn't mean for this to become a lecture, but seriously! Ashe-villains! Let us not let our fears and baggage and past failures dictate our futures. A new era can begin with a smile, swallowing our fears, approaching that person who causes our hearts to thrash up into our mouths. Rejection is only "the worst that could happen" if we allow it to control our lives and actions from any one of thousands of uncomfortable, awkward moments... until we die, unfulfilled and longing for all those moments we missed. Real missed connections are certainly valid, but let it happen only once. We are all deserving of happiness, and can never be quite sure where or with whom we will find it.

To the gents- In my opinion, you only come across as a stalker, a predator, or the like when you stalk or predate women. Being authentic, open, and appreciative may get you the cold shoulder on some occasions, but seriously... Most likely if she doesn't respond, smile, acknowledge that she is at least flattered... then she is in a hurry, having a rough day, not available, or dealing with her own fears and "stuff". So many fellows I see about town I wish would approach me, but alas, I usually have my head in a book, or am writing frantically, and often don't even notice if they glance my way repeatedly. I would rather like someone to make an effort to get my attention if I've inadvertently gotten theirs. Bookish intellectuals can be quite bashful, I'm sure you know (well, if you are a bookish intellectual yourself).

To the ladies- Grace is being open to appreciation. Taking compliments with grace morphs ordinary women into magnificent goddesses. A smile and head nod, even if you aren't interested can show your gratitude for being seen as the wonderful, amazing, and lovely individual you are (so long as they really AREN'T staring at your boobs ;).

I don't think that Asheville women are "not-smiley" sort of folks at all. I tend to smile at all sorts, and regularly those smiles are returned. It is a forced exercise in choosing to bring into my life what I most want: Beautifully smiling people not missing any connections, no matter how inconsequential or fleeting.
I've run away with myself (most likely part of my problem), but my two cents. I'm sure someone will take me as a hypocrite, and that's fine. Even if it is on an anonymous website posting, I wasn't going to miss my chance to appreciate all the sparkling facets of Asheville's finest...

nice hips - m4w (Jack's) 45yr

It was merely a compliment, not an advance, and I'm glad you took it that way.

See you around, beautiful girl.

I MISS YOU - m4w (Vacation)

I know you'll read this and I want you to know I miss You more than you know. I hope I didnt upset you too much tonight I did not mean for you to take it that way. Know that I will be there soon and maybe you will grow comfortable with me. Maybe then we can see what this friendship can become. Sweet Dreams ;-)

Riddle me this. (Asheville!) 22yr

I have a riddle for you:

Hi there, I’m an enthusiastic pineapple looking for a purple rhinoceros. I’d like to think of myself as a drowsy person, who likes observations, snowflakes, mineral oil, and lampshades. My perfect mate: frothy hair, rational height, frigid spirit, wooden smell, grotesque eyes, and a gangling personality. Now a little more about me: I like gastric walks on the lunchtime. On our first date, I would order dragons with moustache and a side of fodder. I hope you like pets, because I have two. Kumquat is a very loving soybean, and Itch is a really fuzzy string. In my spare time I like to combat combustion, discredit stairs, and laminate pinballs.

Think you can do better? Fill in the blanks. If I like what you say, I’ll tell you more about myself. Also, your pic gets nothing in return.

Seeking Long-Lost Childhood Friend - m4w 26yr

I’m hoping to reconnect with a childhood friend who I haven’t seen in around 15 years. I tried searching myspace/facebook, etc, but had little luck, so decided to give this a shot instead, long shot as it may be.

Your name is Celina (sorry, can’t remember your last name for the life of me) and we grew up across the street from each other in Miami. You were a couple years older than me, though your sister Gina was about my age. You also had a brother, but I can’t remember his name.

You moved to NC around 91 or 92, but came back for a while in 93/94. You went to Cutler Ridge Middle at that point, and that was the last time I remember seeing you.

If any of this sounds familiar, please e-mail me. I’d really like to talk to you again and find out how you’ve been over the last 15 years.

Re: Alleged CL Junkie

Sugar or chocolate chip? is for you my fantabulous conspirator. You are divine and inspiring.

Bojangles on Patton... - m4w (Patton Ave.) 25yr

Damn hot Narce, you forgot my honey mustard...

Wht trk Mountainer ? plate - m4m (Park by river)

Hot looking guy, hefty build, beard, relaxed

would like to connect

12 Bones - m4w

You had electric blue boots on. We made eye contact. I didn't want to seem rude to my friend, but I wanted to sit down across from you and say hi. Tell me what color the rest of your outfit was and I'll know if it's really you.

Re: Work!! - m4w (Asheville) 23yr

I'm not actually a man seeking a woman but am hoping that this man seeks this woman. These are the sweet sweet nothings every girl wants whispered into her ear. I've been following along for far too long now and these posts are just too charming, so I've consolidated what I believe may be different post from the same person in hopes that it will help these woker bees come together.

October 30th (We work together)

We haven't known each other very long, but from the very beginning I've been absolutely infatuated. We have an amazing chemistry and I swear I could talk to you every second of the day and would never lose interest. You're just so awe inspiring that I highly doubt that I'd ever have a shot with you. You'll probably read this, but you won't think that it's you, and even if you did, you would never respond.

Nevertheless, you drive me crazy.

Novemher 6th (Working together)

We work together; Sometimes, that is, but when we do it's the best thing in the world. Our chemistry is so natural, there's never a dull moment and no matter what we're doing together I'm always happy. Others have been noticing, how, I don't know, but they have nonetheless.

The thing is we are both kinda shy even though we aren't at all. So if you read this and think of me, ask me out, or ask me to that movie we've both been wanting to see, because if you read this and think of me, then it probably is me.

November 16th (Work)

Ever since we started working together our chemistry has been unreal, but in the time we've spent together/talking lately I feel it has increased tenfold. I may not be what you usually go for, but we're just so good together, why not try actually being so?

OK, yes I know, I have way too much time on my hands but we are all rooting for you Mr. Wonderful. I hope she reads this, it all clicks and you crazy kids live happily ever after. (More realistically though it sounds like you'll probably have to grab her, shake her and tell her kindly but forcefully. OR just ask her to do something fun like a picnic and a movie!!) ;)

The droids I was looking for - m4w (Target, Asheville NC) 35yr

You told me about the R2-D2 Christmas lights. It was out of the blue, but kinda funny, and nice, and I was having a bad day -- one of those run-on sentence kind of days -- and it cheered me up... I don't know why it did.

But it did.

Thank you, tall lady.

Sam's Club Cashier - m4w (Asheville, NC)

Hi! Your name was Donna and I came through your line at Sam's Club today. I commented on the ring you were wearing and we talked about the gift I was getting for my sister. I know this is a long shot, but if you see this, email me back if you would like to talk over a cup of coffee or a bite to eat. Oh, and just to let you know, I was captivated by your smile :)

Re: Walmart guy - w4m

I work with Joe, he's an awesome guy. He has a kick ass personality and is nice too look at. He's not into this internet stuff though. Try approaching him again. Oh, and don't give him an std. Thank you.

Re: Work - m4w

Could you give some kind of hint? Work crushes are among the scariest kinds of crushes; there's a lot of risk involved. What do we both like to do/talk about/things in common/something we'd only both know/etc?

RE: I miss you, Harley Man - w4m

To the person who emailed me - I did hear several Harleys come by my house on Sunday, but none of them was the bike to which I was referring. They still brought a smile to my face, though.

RE the approach - m4w

I don't look at tits. I look into the eyes and I wait for a smile. Hardly any ever come back though. Especially from women around my age (in their 30's).

I'm the guy that wrote the Lowes ad last night and the one you responded to today. What do you do in that situation? Wait outside the door for her? Approach her at the registers? Yeah she was unique and the way she was dressed, I consider myself lucky to even be seen with her much less get to know her. She was a knockout and not in a slutty way. She oozed class and what those eyes said to me was I'm not putting up with BS and you better respect me and that's what I like. All she had to do was smile.

For a blue collar guy like me to end up with a woman that looks and carries herself with class like that, I'd be one happy soul.

approaching someone you don't know - w4m

And that's why you don't hear guys say those things very often. It lessens chances and makes us seem creepy, stalkerish, and desperate. Honestly what would you do if a stranger comes up to you and says he thinks you're unique or beautiful or whatever?

Actually....

There are ways you can say it that don't seem creepy, stalkerish, or desperate. Smile, be a little sheepish, don't stare at my tits when you say it, and don't get in my personal space. If you're nervous, that's okay, so are we. I mean, some guy has balls enough to walk up to a woman and pay a sincere compliment, that isn't easy and we know it, we appreciate it, and we're nervous about how to reply.

Don't be afraid. We only bite if you're lucky.

RE Modaddy's and Work - m4w (Asheville)

The Modaddy's guy isn't unique though. Many of us guys think like he does when we encounter certain women but to actually go up and tell that to any of them isn't going to happen for a lot of us. Not in this town where the labels flow so hastily upon men and many women have this mantra about them that says they were born in the dark but not yesterday. And that's why you don't hear guys say those things very often. It lessens chances and makes us seem creepy, stalkerish, and desperate. Honestly what would you do if a stranger comes up to you and says he thinks you're unique or beautiful or whatever? Then again, you might be unique.

As for the work posting, why don't you ask him out. I think he has given you plenty of signals but read the posting above to actually comprehend what's probably going through his mind. It's even more difficult for a man to put himself out at work so think about it. He's waiting on you. So you're very interested in someone but don't have the guts and you'll actually let it slip by because of it? Welcome to a man's world. Go ask him what he thinks for your own piece of mind. He will be very flattered you did so.

I will say that a few bad apples out there though have ruined it for me and probably a few others and that's why I never make the first move. I think that's why many women find it odd as to why men don't approach anymore but the one's that say and do things that make others feel bad are the one's making it bad for many of you. Another thing to ponder for many of you is this. The men that don't care how you react to them are the one's that usually won't care about you.

Re: Modaddys Boy - w4m

Of all the douchey creeps on here, you seem pretty damn sweet.

Gorgeous, adorable and unique? We girls don't hear adjectives of that caliber very often around these parts. If you can manage to get even one of those out of your mouth before she walks away, I think you've got a damn good chance of going home with her number.

But don't take my word for it. *wink*

Headees - m4m (Middle of the fucking street.)

To the two sketch-wizards who approached me across from Mellow Mushroom today: where can we meet so I can sample some of your product? I'm sure it's some high quality shit. You wouldn't be approaching every rando with facial hair if it wasn't that killa, right? Seriously, dudes, write me back. Let's smoke some of that premature hermaphrodite diesel.

Kelly - m4m (Holiday Inn) 36yr

I have to see you again. The vision of your cock restrained by my wife's pantyhose has been running through my head all week long. Please answer my emails. The night we spent together was magical. I would give up everything I have for one more hour alone with your immaculately waxed ass and legs.

Blue Unitard at the French Bar - m4w 27yr

I was smitten with you even before I overheard you in Karpen Lab talking about your upcoming burlesque show. That was years ago. I never did catch your act--either I had to work or I was out of town or I had a girlfriend who dared me to attend with a withering glare.

Maybe it's for the best. That one glimpse I caught of you in the blue unitard was enough to fuel several dozen sleepless nights. And while I'd love to make out in matching spandex while you sit in my lap, your glasses clicking gently against mine, we're both probably too damn drama class to take it much further. Someone's got to play audience once in a while, after all, and I don't think either of us can give up center stage for long.

Who knows, though? Maybe we should give it a shot--it could lead to the wildest roleplay of our lives. I'll be the teenage girl, snowed in at the family cabin deep in the Smokies. You can be my dad's old friend from college, the only one reckless enough to try and dig me out single-handed.

Re: Work - w4m (Asheville)

PLEASE ask this girl out! If you have such great chemistry, then she feels it too. I have been hoping a guy I work with will make the first move, and the fact that he hasn't is discouraging. It almost makes me want to give up on him...and I really don't want to! Ask her before she thinks you aren't interested!

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